So what happens when your ADHD, FASD, SPD 6 year old kid wants to learn Chinese? LiveMocha because it is free. It is actually good because it is split into groups of 40 words/phrases at a time. Of course, it is not meant for kids Mr.D.’s age but he doesn’t not tackle it alone.
Because he has been steadfast in his love for China, particularly ancient China, we’ve borrowed some resources (he is most taken with the old-style Calligraphy set with the stick of ink and the lovely dragon puppet) and we thought we would round off yesterday by going to a local Chinese buffet. Not particularly brilliant food but cheap and easy on and for the kids.
We had been going to a local school having a ‘fun fair’ in the early evening but the rain put us off – of course – it cleared up by the time we had decided on Chinese instead.
We know, and often forget in the rush, that our kids, especially Mr.D., do better when we take five minutes to calm down before leaving and take another five minutes to discuss our expectations of them, their behaviour, and what those expectations might actually look like.
We didn’t do it last night.
I won’t go into everything that happened – makes for a fairly miserable experience – but it was less than idealistically (way less? oh, yeah).
Today, after Mr.D. rocked and talked a lot in bed last night – always a sign of over-emotionality at some stage of the day – we’ve had an okay day. Not perfect – there was a lot of defiance at breakfast time – but it has been better. On top of that, our respite worker is with us all day today and they’ve camped in the backyard, packed up the tent and toys and camped next to Brooklyn Creek, and Mr.D. has gone to his Museum Science last class and potluck, whilst Emma and our carer are helping Daddy put together the last of the playground (fingers and toes crossed). That has filled in the day nicely.
Now Mummy just has to figure out what activities, when, and how much, for the summer for both kids. This is strategic, requires multiple calendars, and a lot of caffeine. Wish me luck!